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The Archivist's avatar

I don’t know, I’ve literally been paid money to help men with their profiles but it still feels like there’s a lot of randomness to me. Or, as you mentioned, noise from the low-probably event of an undesirable male getting right swipes at all.

Personally, I’ve had “success” with women out of all proportion to how undesirable I really am. But I can’t imagine what it’s like for people even less desirable than I am.

I was recently in a medium sized tourist saturated city and swiped for our days and got zero matches on Tinder. But like 10 on Bumble including a horny girl less than half my age who came to my hotel room. Weird.

Anyway, interesting thoughts, thanks.

Nikita Sokolsky's avatar

Hinge, Bumble and Tinder invest varying amounts into ads in different regions, so the respective popularity of each app will be different regionally. Tinder also tends to reward looks more due to the mental association with hookups, I’ve heard women say “he has a Hinge face”, meaning “he looks like a great guy to date”.

Sebastien H's avatar

On the "don't right swipe too much" point, what's your advice for men who are not going to be in the top % of attractiveness/appeal? Only swipe right on women who you judge to be "on your level" of attractiveness?

Nikita Sokolsky's avatar

Yes exactly, try to guess which right-swipes will get you a match and focus on those.

Nikita Sokolsky's avatar

I think it’s important to stay optimistic about this. Dating apps are a mechanism for meeting the love of your life, them not being perfect is only a small obstacle in the way :-)

ben bernanke's avatar

Is there any confirmation that removing EXIF data from a photo will allow it to be reused while bypassing a shadowban? It's been in old dating app lore for a while now

Nikita Sokolsky's avatar

I don’t think it makes sense for them to use EXIF when there’s much more effective but computationally cheap ways of comparing images.

Benjamin Ikuta's avatar

Could you cite your sources for everything? I'm curious about canned openers, since that's been recommended.

Nikita Sokolsky's avatar

I’ve cited everything I can via hyperlinks. The rest is just my inference based off working as a software engineer in Big Tech for the past 8 years + having had used the apps for about a decade :-)